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I would like someone to please tell me what "hope" there is. I am new to the HL forum and am angry, depressed, unable to function. I cry all the time and can't seem to get it together. How do you get past this? How do you go on when there is so little to hope for. I no longer do anything I love/enjoy, and my family is suffering. I'm sorry to sound so negative, but I guess I'm still in the "anger stage."

Sooo sorry

We have all been there....

I don't know what kind of HL you are suffering from (TE, CTE, AGA, AA...?), for how long, for what kind of treatment you have tried, but after 2 years of trying shampoos and vitamins, I went with rogaine and a topical DHT blocker and saw results very quickly.

I've had my ups and downs and due to changing my regimen (adding things I probably shouldn't have), I lost some of my regrowth and got a bad haircut to cover it up....got a wig, which still sounds crazy to me, but I plop it on and feel GREAT.

I don't hide my hairloss woes from anyone...I think that helps too. At least it helps me. But I've had this problem for awhile...

I have never lost HOPE though.....I believe we are meant to have full heads of hair and we have to keep searching until we either get our hair back, or come to some sort of peace. I'm not at peace with this, and I still have hope...and I keep working as hard as I can. The support and knowledge here is wonderful....

i would like to thank you for your support. I guess i just want to be "me" again. I don't know who this person is that I have become. Maybe a wig will help, but how do you all of a sudden go from little/no hair to a full head of hair without facing stares, whispers behind your back, etc.

thank you again...it's nice to know someone understands.

It is very very hard. Sometimes you feel like you are coping and then other times not so much. I still get really depressed about the whole thing. I will say that having great clip on hair helps- at least you feel good. You can tell people you got extensions or a new style. Most folks don't focus on hair the way we do. I still look at hair when I am watching a movie and wish I could just turn that off. Hang in there!

where can you find clip-in hair for the top of your head? Also, I am a marathon runner, how are these wigs, clip-on hair supposed to stay put while I'm running? I am ready to help myself, but don't know what resources are out there. I am willing to spend good money for something that will look "real"...can wigs be thinned out so as not to look bulky? Also, I don't like anything shiny, and would like to have some sort of realistic "part" on the top of my head. Are there wigs out there that look real? Again, I'm willing to spend whatever it takes.

Thank you all for your support. I feel better that I am not alone.

hey girl I totally understand you.
I guess we never fully recover fromthe anger and sadness.
only time can make it abit acceptable.
you need to help yourself.I dont look at myself in the mirror that much.
I put my hat on when I domy makeup.I stress alot if I look at myself in the mirror.
one other thing is me being shortsighted I dont wear my glasses on when I look at myself...lol
who knew one day I would be greatful for being shortsighted

I tried almost everything out there, over the counter, prescription, snake oil....and finally realized that I was never going to save enough of my bio hair. I have been wearing a topper for several years now - not my ideal but I'm glad there is a cosmetic solution available to me. I started growing out my bio hair when I realized that I was going the topper route so that when I did get the hairpiece and cut, I looked different of course because I had more hair but also a different hairdo. I rec'd comments and compliments and told the truth - I was going to a new hairdresser who did a much better job of cutting and coloring my hair - the truth but not the whole truth. Actually, I'm sure a few people guessed but at this point I wouldn't broadcast it but I really don't care.

My Dov topper is amazingly real looking down to the part and scalp appearance. Sports are an issue though- maybe you would do better with bonded hair. Or a head wrap while running? I wear a hat out walking but haven't wanted to go to a community yoga class since I can't wear a topper and bend over as it pulls.