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So tonight i asked my mother what would she do if she had to make a choice between having a kid or hair. She said she did not want to answer this question.
She said that first she never had seen a woman balding because of pregnancy (!!!!) , then that prolly i wont loose more hair when i stop the pill, that maybe i was "cured".....

I am so tired...i spend so much time explaining to her what was pcos and that andorgenitic alopecia was genetic, that i was loosing hair for pretty much the same reasons my dad, my brother and most people women included, on my dad's side did....

My sister has been diagnosed with PCOS as well and cannot have kids...and still my mother does not get it.

She still thinks that it would be impossible for me to loose my hair to the point i have to wear a wig, and that maybe i will regrow hair.....( my alopecia started at 16 Vvery slowly and progressively, i realized tere was something at age 21/22)....


it's hard for me tha tmy mother always blame it on me being pessimistic. Then i tell her about my cousin who has lost almost all of her and is around 35 and she tells me "yes that is because she is stressed and have a lot of problems, it's not like you blahblah"........


I do not know what to do...and then i have to listen to her when she shows me her thyroid analysis results...that are very fine by the way, andher thyroid is now cured and she had no visible symptoms from it. (She had an episode of hyperthyroide like 3/4 years ago and nothing ever since and she does not longer need medication)



It is so frustrating.

My sister although thought she was not so supportive while she went through all of her IVF procedures, she complained that my mother never really inquired about what PCOS was, or the treatment my sister was doing, ect.....


Of course my mom is not a doc, but at least i would like her to be more supportive instead of telling me that prolly i wont loose hair and i should not think about it, that i should not complain when my sister cannot have kids orhas respiratory issues ect......

This would upset me too. My mom tells me that my hair has a thinned a little but im never going to need a wig....but she doesnt know. Maybe u could try bringing ur mom to a doctor appointment (if she lives close) and the doc could explain PCOS?

oh my.at least I'm not the only one having problemwith my mom.
she doesnt understand either.she has lot of hair.I mean alot.
then she comes to me and tells me see I'm losing hair too.its normal to lose alot a day.
I'm having another TE because I listened to her.I had my wisdom tooth removed and had to take anti biotics.not that I needed that surgery.we were back home and she wanted to make sure I do it while I'm there since it would be crazy expensive here.
she knew the antibiotics would start another TE.I know it.
she told me the other day when I was crying for an answer why my hair is falling out again,here she is saying I think its the antibiotcs you took.
I honestly wanted to kill her.and now she keeps saying it will get better.oh yeah it will after having an initial TE for 7 month and absoloutly no regrwoth and nw this.Its been 3 weeks and my hair is falling again.I'll be bold by the end of next month.

WELL.... I'll trade you moms.

Mine tells me i need a facelift, I need a wig, I need to lose weight, I dress bad...etc......

I empathise dying curls. Never told my parents - they laugh at the thought of a wig. I've been living at home for over a year now and wear a clip on topper and they still dont know, lol. One day without it my father saw my balding spot and inquired what was happening. I dismissed it and he said "i was getting worried you're going bald and you're not even married". Little do they know how well i disguise all of this. Thank God i have an en suite bathroom at home!

I think given your sister has been through the "non understanding" experience with your mother, then at least you know she isn't being personal to you. It's the way she may deal with such things. I know my parents rank physical beauty as the last thing on their mind - so long as you have family / health (not cosmetic issues) and a roof on your head that's most important! Hair and other things i'd like to change about my physique are things i can never ever raise with them because the few times i've had, they've been terribly dismissive.

But we are all here for you and if it wasnt for you ladies on this forum, i'd never have gotten through the last two years of darkness to do with this hair loss.

Hugs xox

PS: i also have PCOS, and even that's a dismissive topic with my mother, so i really do empathise. When my acne first began aged 25 it was all down to stress and bad eating. My God, it could never be my hormones, and i was being too vain when my hair started to thin. So i do understand completely. Now i have thyroid symptoms on top of that and have been told by 2 doctors independently that i'd have problems conceiving, should i ever be fortunate to find someone in the first place. Heck the docs told my mom at aged 14 i'd have problems. BUT, she wont acknowledge it, and so i can never ever discuss such shit with her. I have 3 sisters whom i can never discuss this with either. I've just about told one of them i wear a topper, and she was aghast at my bold spot.

I've had all this since i was 25...and only now at aged 32 i've told a family member about it. It sucks, and it caused me terrible low periods in life.