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Becoming Comfortable With Yourself And Embracing Hair Loss

Discussion in 'Living with Androgenetic Alopecia' started by VeeBee, Jan 24, 2018.

  1. DivyaJ

    DivyaJ Established Member

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    I know exactly how you feel...despite my rather confident post earlier...I know it's weird to say this but I've had this condition for so long now that I feel I would not be me without my hair loss :( but since I wrote that post, my hair has become worse...my hair loss started back in 1997...I'm now 37 and I can barely remember having good hair or how it felt to have long hair.

    It's sort of beginning to hit me now...recently I took a picture of my head and that's when I realized how much I have been fooling myself...I'm practically bald... :(

    I've been contemplating shaving it all off...would give me a sense of control...but that would be a whole new level of social stigma to deal with...which I can't understand since it is my body!

    In all these years, only two doctors have been really kind and considerate and whether or not they offered me actual solutions, I left the clinics feeling better...

    I've found ways to hide the condition...my hair strands, in general, are quite thick...so I manage to cover with some of my hair and then use topical hair fibres for the rest...sometimes I couldn't care less...

    Malls are a nightmare with their brightly lit dressing rooms :( I hate them...I get so distracted from what I'm trying on...I end up staring at my head and being appalled that I came out like this...that I'm walking around like this.

    Speaking of wigs... please try https://freedomwigs.com/ - they are very natural looking and are actually made of human hair...I would love to try them...but they do not have an agent in India and the wigs are supposedly very expensive...and one has to have a shaved head to use these...so I have not been able to try them...

    Divya
     
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  2. TinaM1968

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    I’m guessing you don’t have hairloss?!?!? So what exactly is your purpose here!?!?!?
     
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  3. DivyaJ

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    Hey TinaM1968, glad you noted this. I was getting rather annoyed getting notifications for these spammers who are advertising for quacks and do not know the first thing about hair loss or the emotional distress that accompanies it.
    This needs to be flagged with the moderator of this site. Of late, I've noticed quite a few of these spam messages on several threads.
    I've reported the post!
     
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  4. TinaM1968

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    Me too! It’s hard enough dealing with all this we are going through without these spammers coming on trying to make money off us. I fell for something like this in the beginning of my nightmare. A lady pretending like she had hair loss and that she used a hair vitamin that stopped it and was regrowing her hair. I bought it expensive it was but I was so desperate. Then as I was researching I found she was a seller for the product Just makes me so mad!
     
  5. DivyaJ

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    I know what you mean. Unfortunately, there are so many people out there to take advantage. I just went through my past posts and removed all pictures I uploaded. I don't want someone using my pictures for promoting their business. Makes you feel so unsafe! This is a forum for women, but these spammers are men! I wish there would be stricter moderation for such forums where people are really vulnerable.
     
  6. TinaM1968

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    Yea I don’t upload pictures for that reason if I do they are only up for a few
     
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    with the help of hair transplant you becomes more confident
     
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    Hi Roxy,

    I agree with your point. Hair loss will effect our self confidence. Recently my cousin has gone through a surgical treatment for hair loss at Rapha International Clinic. A Hair transplant clinic in India. Here, the surgeons will not only diagnose you but also motivates to regain your self confidence and courage. 100% assured result.

    Book for an appointment : Rapha Clinic

    Thank you
     
  10. TinaM1968

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    Oh what hair loss was your cousin suffering from was your cousin male or female?
     
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    Dear 'Losing It"..Yes, I like your approach about being kind to yourself and your mentioning the different stages we go through in grieving (bereavement) the loss of our hair. There is the psychology of hair loss that needs to be expressed, processed and understood. It can be a very painful and wounding experience to one's self image. Self compassion helps and facing our difficult feelings around this deep loss. We need to support each other and to work with practitioners who can help us process the bereavement journey. Thanks again for sharing your insights and suggestions about ways of coping with hair loss.
     
  13. thinhair1

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    Hi All,
    I haven't posted on this forum for about 10 years I think. I'm 54 and have been dealing with hair loss since I was about 31. It's androgenic alopecia, and it runs in my mom's side of the family. It's fair to say I didn't take it well when I realized this was a chronic issue. I was devastated and depressed and didn't tell anyone. I was so ashamed and sure my life was over. Used to lie in a puddle in the bathroom after seeing my hair in the mirror. Wouldn't come out of the bathroom for hours.
    Somehow I managed to find a wonderful man to marry and had 2 kids, a boy and a girl. Yep, I'm terrified for my teens that they will experience hair loss too. I have been through all the phases of grief. Maybe I'm at acceptance, but some days I'm not.

    The best thing for me was to switch over to the website heralopecia.com. The women there all wear fake hair, whether human hair wigs or synthetic. It took me a really long time to be willing to wear a wig. I think I was about 45 or so. If there's one thing I would do differently it would be to do this SOONER! Really, having hair gave me my life back. Fake hair does not give your your real hair back, obviously. But it can give you your LIFE back, which is probably what you're really after anyway. It gave me my SMILE back. Go to the site, lurk around a little bit, and then dip your toe in the water. Most of us there are sort of wig addicts. All ages of women, as young as teens. It is the most supportive and warm site ever. Upbeat, with large doses of realism and occassional whining.

    The wig I wear most is called Malibu Waves by Jaclyn Smith. It's on the Paula Young website. I buy maybe 3 of them a year, at about $70 each when they're on sale. People do not know I'm wearing a wig. i would know by the staring if they did. Trust me, I know when someone is looking at my head, LOL! I've saved a ton of money as now I cut my own hair and don't color it.
    I also cut some of the wigs down myself so they are toppers, and they're cooler.

    I wish I had my own hair and sometimes I'm still mad. But mostly I love the ease of getting my hair ready in the morning. Lots of my girlfriends are jealous of my hair, as now theirs is starting to thin and mine is not!! Ha! Only one friend knows, because she had cancer as a teen and lost all her hair so she understands, even though hers has all grown back. I was willing to tell her, and even that was hard for me.

    This is a surprisingly difficult issue to deal with. I honestly was almost suicidal...well, you know what I mean. When you are so devastated at having to deal with something that you just wish you wouldn't wake up.....not really suicidal I guess. But definitely not living life.
    It's made me a better person to have gone through this, but still if given the chance I wouldn't choose it! :)

    Try a wig. Just try it. You can un-try it if you want.
    I hate to see women suffer over this. It really is a mind-bender, isn't it?
     
  14. thinhair1

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    I'm not sure why my post above says the website that I recommend is heralopecia. Maybe I mis-typed it?
    The website I recommend is called heralopecia.com
     
  15. thinhair1

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    OK, I'm seeing that when I type the name of the website that I recommend, it is being changed to "heralopecia.com" when I post.

    Hmmm......am I not allowed to recommend a website to people?
     
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    heralopecia is the site
     
  17. thinhair1

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    Well, clearly the name of the site is being changed every time I write it. :(
    What's up, admin?
     

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