I know this is a little off-topic, but people in my life have been bugging me lately about my views on having kids. I don't want them, and even if I do, I definitely NEVER want to get pregnant. If I ever do have them, I would either adopt or use a surrogate. People get all judgmental when I say things like that. Someone even suggested that not wanting kids makes me selfish. That really makes me angry because I am NOT selfish - I am always willing to go above and beyond for the people I love. I'm working SO hard at the gym right now, because I gained a ton of weight, and I need to get back down to my ideal size. Getting pregnant would mean throwing away all of that progress. Not to mention what it could possibly do to my hair, since I already know I have hair loss issues. And it would derail my career, which is unacceptable to me. My self-esteem is in shreds right now because of the weight and my hair loss. I haven't let anyone take my picture in 10 years because I don't feel that I'm worthy to appear in them. Once I can get my appearance to the point where I actually feel good about myself again...well, I don't think I should be expected to give that up for ANYTHING. I wish people would understand that they shouldn't judge me without walking a mile in my shoes first. It's not that I'm selfish, it's that I honestly do not have enough of a desire to be a mother that those sacrifices would really be worth it to me. I'm not saying it's worthless - obviously it's a very worthwhile experience to a lot of people, but TO ME, in MY life, it doesn't seem worth it. I'm only 26, so this is not set in stone, but it is how I feel right now. And I wish people would respect it and stop acting like not having kids means I'm a horrible person and that I'm missing out on one of the greatest things in life. Just because it's one of the greatest things for them doesn't mean it would be for me. Some people are just not meant to be parents, but they do it because of society's pressure on them and then the kids end up being neglected or abused. I'm not saying that's me, not at all, but the point is that having kids is simply not for everyone. And someone who has kids is not superior to someone who doesn't. It really bothers me, because...well, it's MY life, and I have every right to decide what I want to do with my life (and my body) without other people judging me for it. Am I right, or does wanting to remain childless really make me horrible?