Hi everybody! I have been reading the online discussions and forums here for several months, and I am so, SO deeply grateful to everyone for being so generous and brave in sharing their stories. I am in my thirties and have been suffering for the past 8 years a slow and steady diffuse thinning all over my head, with the hairline to the crown being the worst. I have watched my thick, long curly tresses slowly thin out and break, never to return, and returned to the mirror to see more and more glaring white scalp instead of pitch black hair. The worst part has been the sense of isolation and the fear and shame that comes with it - reading everyone's questions, concerns and stories here has been like shining a light in the darkness. I am at a very hard place right now - I have been the owner of a Dov topper for several years now, and only used it part-time. I am a performer so in public and on stage it was a must, then in my private life I got away with Toppik all over my scalp and some artful use of a strong hairspray. It was almost like I had two personalities, separated by hair, confidence, personal comfort. I am at the point, however, where that just doesn't cut it anymore. I find myself wanting to wear my topper every day, all day. And here is the catch. I have been single now for years. Between depression and weight gain it was easy to shelter myself and come home to take of my topper when I felt like it. But now I have been losing weight (yay!), getting my mojo back (yay!), and want to get back out there in the land of dating. Having obvious clips in my hair, the chance of my topper moving, and especially having to take it off at night in front of a boyfriend, is absolutely NOT an option for me (boo!). I just recently had the horrifying experience of a handsome man I was working with in a show flirting with me - to the point of putting his hands on my hair to stroke my head. I could feel him stop at the clips and the obvious bump where the edge of my topper was, all the while sweating bullets that the piece was going to shift around under his groping. I was mortified - I wanted to cringe with discomfort, and have vowed to not put myself in that situation ever again. So I find myself hunting around these forums looking for answers to bonding toppers over hair or bonding, trying a sew-in, perhaps even shaving for the best bond - all terrifying and no simple answers. The depth of information and detail everyone has taken the time to share here has been like a light in the darkness. I would love to hear more about people's experiences deciding to go from just clips to bonding or sew-ins, even if they have enough diffuse hair to "sort of" cover the top of their heads. I feel like I am in a no man's land here and frozen with indecision. Thanks so much everyone here, again, for your bravery and your honesty. I will always be so grateful.